(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

The Message of Islam is universal. It is a comprehensive religion and is applicable to all times and places. It is not specific to any Age or Place. It applies to every human being, Jinn, and creation of Allah SWT. Islam is a complete religion. This religion came to protect and preserve five things:

  1. Preserve Faith (La Ilaha illAllah) There is no God but Allah.
  2. Preserve the human race.
  3. Preserve the brain (Intellect)
  4. Preserve Nasl (progeny), procreate to preserve humanity
  5. Preserve and protect wealth.

The Prophet (SAW) has been sent as a mercy for all worlds! Islam is an easy religion to follow, there are no impossible rules to follow, Allah has made it easy for the believer. Abu Bakr  (RA) would say, “even if I loose the rope of a camel I’ll find it in the book of Allah’, stressing that there’s nothing out of this religion. This religion is pure and Allah (SWT) has said that He would preserve it until the end of time.

Water exists in three states, Tahoor, Tahir and Najs.

Tahoor water is pure in itself and good to be used for purification.

Tahir water is pure in state but not good for use in purification

Najs is impure water, this kind of water has added impurities which change its color, smell & taste. This water is not to be used for purification purpose.


There are 7 types of water that are used for purification. Three types of water are sent down from the skies, water from rain, snow and hail. They are all good for use in purification.

Water of the well: Even though, wild animals may have used this water it is good for use in purification.

Spring water, Sea water and River water are all good for purification. In regards to sea water, Prophet (SAW) has said, whatever is in the sea is edible including its dead. Prophet SAW has said about purity, that indeed a believer will never be in a state of Junub( impurity). In Surah Taubah Allah SWT says, ‘The disbelievers are impure’, meaning not physically but spiritually or in their hearts.

Water that is left over after drinking from it is ok for use in purification. Water that cats have drunk out of, is also good for use in purification. Pigs and dogs will make stagnant water impure if they drink from there. Only exception will be if they drink out of running water. Most scholars agree that water that has been used before can be used in purification as long as there are no impurities added to it.

Rules of Using the Bathroom:

       Before entering the bathroom say the dua, “Allahumma inni Aoodhobika minal khubosi wal khabais”, O Allah I seek refuge in you from the male and female devils.

  • Enter with your left foot first.
  • Do not take anything with the name of Allah on it (i.e rings, necklaces etc.) with you inside.
  • It is sunnah to not talk while inside.
  • Avoid reading while inside.
  • Avoid making the bathroom facing the Qiblah.
  • Clean yourself very well after the call of nature. Use your left hand to clean yourself.
  • Exit with your right foot first.
  • When outside say the dua, Ghufranaka three times or say the dua, “Ghufranaka Alhamdu Lillahilladhi adhhaba annil adha wa aa’fani” O Allah, I seek your forgiveness. All praises are due to Allah who has taken away from me the discomfort and granted me comfort.


Prophet  (SAW) asked us to avoid 2 curses

Do not use a public place or the shade of a tree to relieve yourself, try and find a place designated for that purpose.

Do not blow over food as your breath must not be in the food

Do not urinate in the place used for showering. Men must not stand and urinate as some urine may splash on them.

The Prophet (SAW) once passed by two graves and he told his companions that these two were being tortured, when asked for what, he said, one of them used to hear something about a person and would go and tell that person thereby causing discord among them. The other one was being tortured as he was negligent in being clean after using the bathroom. Cleanliness is one of the branches of deen.



(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

Zakat means growing and increasing blessing, as though the wealth is growing in size and multiplying in blessings. Allah SWT says in Surah Ar Rum Ayah 38-39: “So give to the kinsmen his due, and to the needy, and to the wayfarer. That is best for those who seek Allah’s Countenance. And such are they who are successful. That which ye give in usury in order that it may increase on (other) people’s property hath no increase with Allah; but that which ye give in Zakat, seeking Allah’s Countenance hath increase manifold.”

Zakat is obligatory (fard) towards the poor. Zakat is the right of the poor on your wealth. The word Haq is used as right of the poor and not just obligation (fard) for the rich to give. In surah Taubah ayah 103 Allah says to the Prophet (SAW), “Take alms from their wealth in order to purify them and sanctify them with it, and invoke Allah for them. Verily! Your invocations are a source of security for them, and Allah is All Hearer, All Knower.”

Zakat became mandatory in the second year of Prophet SAW’s migration to Medina.

Benefits of Zakat

  • It pleases Allah SWT
  • It is the third pillar of Islam. The deen will collapse if any pillar is missing.
  • Allah will bless your money and you will find an increase in it. It may not be literally, but Allah may prevent some unfortunate event that you would otherwise have to spend on.
  • It cleanses your soul and your wealth.
  • Giving Zakat is an attribute of the muttaqun (pious believers). Allah says about the muttaqun in Surah Ad Dhariyat Ayah 15-19; “Verily, the Muttaqun will be in the midst of Gardens and Springs in Paradise, Taking joy in the things which their lord has given them. Verily, they were before this Muhsinun (good-doers). They used to sleep but little by night and praying with fear and hope. And in the hours before dawn, they were found asking Allah for forgiveness. And in their properties there was the right of the beggar, and the Mahrum (poor who does not ask the others).
  • Zakat pleases the one receiving it and in turn pleases Allah.
  • It is a protection of your wealth from jealousy (Hasad) and envy.
  • The poor make Dua for you.
  • It is a means of keeping order in society, when the needs of people are met; they may not have to do resort to robbery, selling their honor, etc.

Rules regarding Zakat

Zakat is obligatory on money worth 80 grams of gold. That money should be in your possession for a full Islamic year and 2.5% of it must be given out as Zakat. The intention for giving Zakat must be made at the time it is given. One cannot just give sadaqa and think after sometime that they can count it as Zakat.

Who is eligible for Zakat?

 There are eight types of people who are eligible for Zakat. In Surah Taubah Ayah 60 Allah SWT says “The sadaqat are only for the poor (Fuqarah), the needy (miskeen), and those who collect them, and those whose hearts are to be reconciled, and to free the captives, and the debtors (gharimeen), and for the cause of Allah, and for the wayfarer; a duty imposed by Allah. Allah is all knowing, wise.” According to most scholars ‘sadaqat’ refers to zakat.


  • Among poor relatives all are eligible to receive zakat except for the roots: father, grandfather, great grandfather and so on, and the branches: children, grandchildren, great grandchildren and so on. The roots and branches being your responsibility are not allowed to receive zakat. You are rewarded twice for giving Zakat to your relatives, once for giving zakat and the other for keeping up the ties of kinship.


When you see a poor without clothes, it is the rich who are responsible for that. If everyone gave out his or her portion of Zakat fairly, no one would remain poor.

Prophet (SAW) said I am going to tell you 3 things, memorize them for I swear they are true: – Never will money or wealth decrease if you give Sadaqa. – Never a Servant of Allah who is wronged and is patient but Allah will increase with it his dignity and honor. – Never a Servant of Allah opens a door for asking not needing but Allah opens the door of poverty for him.

One must be careful about whom you give Zakat to, because giving to the wrong person will prevent the deserving from getting his share.


About those who do not give Zakat:

Allah (swt) says in Surah Ale Imran Ayah 180 “And let not those who covetously withhold of that which Allah has bestowed on them of His Bounty (wealth) think that it is good for them (and so they do not pay the obligatory Zakat). Nay, it will be worse for them; the things, which they covetously withheld, shall be tied to their necks like a collar on the Day of Resurrection. And to Allah belongs the heritage of the Heavens and the Earth; and Allah is well acquainted with all that you do.”

An authentic Hadith states: The money on which zakat is not paid will come on the Day of Judgment in the form of a snake and grab the owners by the sides of their lips and say “I am your wealth”.

If Zakat is not paid on the farm animals (cattle, camels etc.) These animals will walk on the owners from side to side repeatedly for 50,000 years.

If someone insists on not giving Zakat, he would be considered to be out of the folds of religion and given 3 days to repent. Abu Bakr (RA) used to say that, “I cannot distinguish between Salat and Zakat.”



(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

One of the most amazing events in the life of our beloved Prophet (saw). Here is the summary:

The two journeys, the Isra (night journey to Jerusalem) and the Mairaj (the journey to the seven heavens) took place on the night of 27 Rajab before the migration to Medina. Jibrael (as) found the Prophet (saw) sleeping in the hateem area of the Kaaba. He opened his chest and washed his heart; this was most likely done in order to strengthen his heart and prepare him for his meeting with Allah (swt). He presented him with Buraq the animal, described as smaller than a horse and larger than a donkey. Jibrail (as) asks the Prophet (saw) to mount on Buraq. As the prophet approached Buraq, Jibrail (as) tells Buraq that “He (saw) is the most noble Prophet to take a ride on you”.

On reaching Jerusalem the Prophet (saw) tied Buraq to a stone and entered the Masjid Aqsa. Here, Allah (swt) gave the leadership of all Prophets to our Prophet (saw), where he led 124,000 Prophets in prayer. After the prayer the Prophet (saw) was presented with 2 cups to choose from: one of milk and one of wine – he chose milk and drank it. To this Jibrael (as) said “you chose the right drink and because of this you and your nation will be guided.” SubhanAllah!

For the Mairaj, the Prophet (saw) says he took Al Mairaj to go up to the seven heavens. What it looks like Allah knows best. At each heaven, Gibrael greeted the keeper with “Assalamalaikum”.

On the first heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Adam (as), who replied to him as “my righteous Prophet and son”.  The prophet said that every time Adam (as) looked to the left he wept as here he saw his descendants punished in hell, and when he looked to the right he laughed because here he saw them in heaven.

On the second heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Issa (as) and Yahya (as)

On the Third heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Yousef (as).

On the Fourth heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Idris (as). He is one of the earliest prophets after Adam (as) and before Noah (as), and was friends with the angels. One day, he wanted to see the heavens so an angel took him on his wings to the heavens. On the 4th heaven, the Angel of death was commanded to take his soul and he died there. Allah (swt) has said that he is buried in heaven. SubhanAllah!

On the fifth heaven, the Prophet (saw) greeted Haroon (as).

On the sixth heaven, the Prophet (saw) greeted Moosa (as), who started crying as his people had lost the status of the most favored people of Allah.


On the seventh heaven Prophet (saw) found Ibrahim (as) leaning on Bait ul Ma’moor (meaning constructed house). It exists in heaven as Kaaba on earth; here 70,000 angels are in tawaf  continuously and never returning. What an honor for Ibrahim (as)! After this Jibrael (as) told the Prophet that he cannot accompany him any more, as he would burn, but told the Prophet (saw) that he could go on. The Prophet reached the Lote tree; the roots of this tree are in the sixth heaven and the branches and leaves extend into the seventh heaven. Four rivers start beneath this tree, 2 are in heaven: the Kauthar and Salsabeel, and two on this earth: the Nile and the twin rivers of Tigris and Euphrates in Iraq.


The Prophet on his return from Mairaj was very perplexed as he was wondering how to relate this incident to the people. Just then Abu Jahl was walking by and saw him worried and asked what happened. The Prophet (saw) told him that he went on a journey to Jerusalem and returned. In those days it would have taken two months. Abu Jahl laughed at him and called the people of Mecca and the Prophet Narrated to them about his Journey to Jerusalem. They began questioning him about what the city looked like , what the mosque was like, etc, etc. Just then to aid our Prophet (saw) Allah (swt) sent Jibrael (as), who lifted the entire city of Jerusalem for our Prophet to see and put their questions to rest. SubhanAllah!


People still asked for more proofs now he looked up at the sky and pointed at the moon and everyone saw it split in half. The disbelievers seeing this went on to call the prophet (saw) a magician. The prophet(saw) then asked them to wait for 3 days for the return of a caravan he had passed by. On his return journey to Mecca, while still riding on Buraq the prophet (saw) had become thirsty and had come to this caravan had water from them, they seemed to be looking for a lost camel and asked the prophet(saw) if he had seen it. The prophet told them its location as he had seen a lone camel some distance away. He also told the Meccans that the first camel of this caravan has a red cover.

Indeed after 3 days, this caravan came and related everything the prophet said about them and also said they saw a very strange thing in the sky, the moon split in half.

We read the translation of verse 1-18 of Surah Najm, which talks about Mairaj.

Sheikh Adel mentioned that Abu Jahl’s real name was Amr Ibn Hisham, he was infact earlier known as Abul hakm meaning father of wisdom but the prophet gave him the name Abu Jahl i.e father of ignorance as someone so opposed to Allah cannot be called Hakm. He was even called  “Pharaoh of this Land”.

Also mentioned that masjid Aqsa was the first qibla and third of the sacred mosques. The command for the five daily prayers was given on this journey. It was initially for 50 prayers daily but upon Moosa’s (as) advice the prophet (saw) kept going back to Allah(swt) to have it reduced until 5. It is said that one who says his five daily prayers receives the reward for 50 prayers which was originally prescribed. What a wonderful motivation to keep striving to never miss any Salat!






Value of speech – Part 2

Value of speech – Part 2

(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

On the Journey to the Heavens, Mairaj, the Prophet (SAW) saw many rewards and punishments being given out to people for their good deeds and for their sins. One that drew his attention deeply was about the dangers of the tongue or the words uttered by us.

He (SAW) saw a male calf come out of a small hole but could not go back no matter how he tried. Jibrael AS explained to the prophet that this is like the words coming out of the mouth, which can never be sent back.

He (SAW) saw someone eating the dead body of his brother. That was for backbiting.

He (SAW) saw some people have iron nails and scratching their chests, this was for speaking to give a bad image of a brother while in duniya. They were being made to eat of themselves.

The Prophet SAW said that we would be called to account for every single word that is uttered by us.

Muadh Ibn Jabl, Prophets companion, his ambassador to Yemen and most knowledgeable about halal and haram has said:

“ Nothing will put your face in the hellfire, more, than the Harvest of your tongue”

The Prophet (SAW) once asked, “Do you know who is a muflis (bankrupt)?” He then answered, “the one who comes on the Day of Judgment with mountains of hasanat or good deeds, but would be sent to hellfire because he may have insulted someone, hurt someone’s feelings, talked behind their back things they would not like others to know. To recompense these people, his good deeds will be given to those he wronged until all his good deeds are gone and when that’s not enough then their bad deeds would be given to this person. Thus being sent to the hellfire just because he was careless about the use of the tongue. The lesson being keep your good deeds for yourself by being watchful of what you say.

There is no good in any talk except where one asks to give sadaqa or to do good deeds or to bring reconciliation between two people.

The Prophet’s (SAW) Advice: Talk less because of one wrong word we may have to stay in the hellfire for 70 years. Talking excessively hardens the heart, where hearing the words of Allah does not affect it and the hardened heart is furthest from Allah. It is a hadith, do not make talk without Zikr Allah.

A man once asked the Prophet(SAW) how to be safe in this duniya and in the Akhirah.

The Prophet said: 1. Hold your tongue back.

  1. Let your house include you- spend time in your house with your people.
  2. Cry in repentance, for your mistakes.

The Prophet (SAW) said that every morning the limbs of our body talk to the tongue and say “fear Allah and do not put us in difficulty. We are behind you and follow you. If you do good, we do good and if you sin, then we sin.”

When asked by the Prophet (SAW), what do you fear most for us? he (SAW) held his tongue.

Surah Fussilat: regarding those who stick to the straight path, “The Angels descend on them and say do not be grieved or sad and receive the glad tidings of Jannat. We are your guardians and protectors in this life and the Akhirah.”

May Allah guide us all in following the Prophet’s advice. Ameen

Importance of Speech

Allah SWT says to speak only good words. There are two Angels, Raqeeb on our right shoulder and Ateed on our left shoulder writing every deed and word of ours. Allah SWT says, anyone who believes should only speak good words or keep silent.

You may receive Allah’s pleasure or his wrath until you meet him, only because of your speech. The Prophet (SAW)’s beloved wife Aisha (RA) once mentioned the prophet’s wife Saffiyah(RA) as a short woman in a simple gesture. He SAW did not like that and said to her that, what you said and gestured could change the water of the sea. We need to reflect how on how we talk and conduct ourselves. May Allah Guide us all.

It is said that if you trip with your feet you’ll probably only hurt yourself a bit and recover but if you trip with your tongue you could loose everything.

Gheebah means taking advantage of absence. Once Prophet SAW asked his companions what is gheebah? They said that Allah and his messenger know best, He (SAW) then replied, “to mention your brother with what he hates”. The Sahabah said, “even if it is true”, and the Prophet(SAW) said, “this is gheebah”. To say what’s not true is spreading rumors and that is even worse. You share in the punishment of gheebah even if you don’t say anything and are only listening to the other person doing so. Correct the person making gheebah by stopping them, if you protect the dignity of your brother or sister then Allah will protect your face from the fire on the day of judgement.

The Prophet (SAW) said, to leave argument with people even if you are right. He said that there is special place in Jannah for such people, who leave argument for the sake of Allah.

We should try to reduce our talk time and try to engage in Zikr of Allah.

However, it is also not allowed that a person should take an oath of silence for the day. An Islamic saying goes like this, “There is no orphan after puberty and no silence until the night”.

On one occasion the Prophet (SAW) was giving a khutbah and he saw one man standing outside in the heat, while everyone else was sitting. He inquired about him and was told that he is Israel, he has taken a wow to stand and never take shade. He had also wowed to fast  and keep quiet. The Prophet(SAW) said to tell him to sit under the shade and speak as Allah is not in need for him to torture himself. That is not Islam. Allah SWT says that he does not make any difficulty in religion.

During the Battle of Tabuk, one of the toughest battles, the sahabah had to walk hundreds of miles leaving  behind a harvest ready to be picked. Three people said that they are strong and have horses and would go later. They did not go. When the Prophet (SAW) inquired about one of them, someone spoke up and described him as probably being busy with his fine garments. Muadh Ibn Jabal, immediately corrected him and said not to say that about him. Imagine how careful the companions were with their speech and how they corrected the other. The three people were punished by Allah, the Prophet did not speak to them for 50 days. They repented even though a neighboring king offered them a good life as their Prophet stopped speaking to them. They refused and burnt that letter. Allah forgave them as related in Surah Taubah.

Value of Speech – Part 1

Value of Speech  – Part 1

(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

There are 100 Levels of Jannah and the distance between each level is like the distance between the earth and the 1st heaven. Only a privileged few will be with the Prophet (SAW) in Jannah. They will have 2 qualities Taqwa (god fearing) and Husnul Khuluq (good Manners &/ good behavior).

The Prophet (SAW) said that, the people furthest from him in the hereafter are:

  1. At Thirtharoon– Those who talk too much and there is no benefit in their talk.
  2. Al Matafayhiqoon– Those people who use words for arrogance. They talk to people with words that people do not understand. Showing that they are more knowledgeable. They speak in a loud and lofty manner.
  3. Al Mutashaddiqoon– Those people who use their words in putting others down or speaking excessively about others in a filthy manner.

A saying in Arabic goes: If a person’s mind is complete (he is knowledgeable) his speech is incomplete (he will talk less). The higher your spiritual state, lesser, you need to speak. One who talks less commands more respect. Al kalaam ad dava- Speech is like medicine, taking the right amount would cure and taking too much could harm or even kill. The tongue is like a wild animal, if let loose it would harm but if tied up it will not harm. Nothing needs to be imprisoned more than the tongue.

Abu Bakr Siddiq would try and pull out his tongue and used to say that, “this tongue always puts me in trouble.”

Luqman, the wise would say “when people are proud of their words and speech be proud of your silence.”

However, a person who keeps quiet when seeing injustice has the influence of the devil.


Exceptions to Gheebah:

There are six exceptions where we are allowed to talk about other people:

  1. To describe someone. For example if someone is blind or has one leg etc.
  2. Raising a complaint against someone to a Judge.
  3. To get a Fatwa. Once Hind (wife of Abu Sufyan) after she had accepted Islam, came to the Prophet (SAW) and said about her husband that, “indeed he is cheap, and a miser and he is not giving me enough to support his children and me.” She wanted the Prophets advice and fatwa; He (SAW) said “take whatever is enough for you and your children that which is Ma’roof (just and balanced).” The Prophet let her describe her husband but it was only for that monetary matter. She did not say any other bad things about him.
  4. Giving Advice. If someone asks for Advice about another person, you’ll have to talk about that person related to that matter. Once Fatima bint Qais came to the Prophet (SAW) seeking advice about two marriage proposals for her, one from Muawiyah and one from Abu Jahl. He (SAW) said to her that Muawiyah is nothing (as a fact of his monetary situation), and Abu Jahl never puts his cane down (beats women). He (SAW) told her to marry Muawiyah as marrying the righteous would enrich you. The Prophet talked about these people as he was giving sincere advice.
  5. Warning the Muslims against someone who is a criminal, thief etc., for the protection of the community.
  6. Talk about someone who openly sins and does evil, (Al Mujahir). However it is preferred to not gossip about it as you could fall into sin later.

One must be careful, however, not to misuse these exceptions.

Marriage in Islam

On Marriage in Islam

By Dr. Sherif Mohammed.

By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend.

She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you;

When you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world.

The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur’anic verse which says: “they are your garments and you are their garments” (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187).

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, “And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature …” (Surah Al Nahl 16:72) Only our Almighty Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala in His Infinite Power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as He says in the Qur’an, “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” (Surah Al Rum 30:21)

But Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured.

Remember that our Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She out ran him but later after she had gained some weight, he out ran her.

Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam took his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. The show of emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating.

Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam said “one would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife.”

Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife’s mouth, opening the car’s door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel.

Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala will always result in having more peace at home.

Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up even by throwing cold water on his/her face.

Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam said “the best of you are those who are best to their wives.”

Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don’t be like my colleague who was unhappy about his wife’s parents coming to visit for few weeks. He candidly said to her “I don’t like your parents.” Naturally, she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said ” I don’t like yours either”… Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70) and offsprings.

The best example in this regard is the Prophet Salallaahu ‘aliahi wa’sallaam whose love for Khadija, his wife of 25 years extended to include all those she loved and continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send portions of it to Khadija’s family and friends and whenever he felt that the visitor at the door might be Khadija’s sister Hala, he would pray saying “O Allah let it be Hala.”


Islam is a strong advocate of marriage. There are no religious clerical appointments where one must be celibate like for example a priest or nun. The prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said “There is no celibacy in Islam.” The prophet has also said, “Marriage is my tradition whosoever keeps away from it is not from amongst us”.

Marriage is a moral safeguard as well as a social building block. Through marriage, families are established and the family is considered to be the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only valid or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations. It neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be, so that we remain civilized and equity reigns in society. Marriage also acts as an outlet for physical needs and regulates it as well.

The purpose of Marriage.

The word “Zawj” is used in the Quran to mean a pair or a mate. In general it’s usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is so that men and women can love one another, provide company to each other, procreate and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of God.

* Marriage serves as a means to emotional and physical gratification. It is also a form of worship because it is obeying God and His messenger – i.e. Marriage is seen as the only possible way for the sexes to unite under God. One could choose to live in sin but by choosing marriage one is displaying obedience to God.

Marriage is a “Mithaq” – a solemn covenant or agreement. It should not be taken lightly. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. Your partner should be your choice for life. One should be mature enough to understand the demands of marriage so that the union can be a lasting one.

For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met:

1) Consent of both parties.
2) “Mahr” – a gift from the groom to the bride.
3) Witnesses.
4) The marriage should be publicized. (It should never be kept secret as this can lead to suspicion and troubles within the community.)

Is Marriage obligatory?

According to Imams Abu Hanifah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Malik ibn Anas, marriage is recommended, however for certain individuals it becomes Wajib (obligatory). Imam Shaafi’i considered it to be nafl or mubah (preferable). The general opinion is that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she does not marry they will commit Zina (sex outside of marriage), then marriage becomes obligatory. If a person has strong sexual urges then it becomes obligatory for that person to marry. Marriage should not be put off or delayed, especially if one has the means to do so.

A man, however should not marry if he does not possess the means to maintain a wife and future family, if he will not consummate the marriage, if he dislikes children, or if he feels marriage will seriously affect his religious obligation. The general rule is that the Prophet (pbuh) enjoined people to marry. He said “When one marries, they have fulfilled half of their religion , so let them fear God regarding the remaining half.” This Hadith is narrated by Anas ibn Malik. Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from wrongful actions and upholds the family unit.

Selection of a partner:

The choice of a partner should be the one with the most “Taqwa” (piety). The Prophet recommended suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple is permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a desireful one. This ruling does not contradict the Ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze.

– The couple, however is not permitted to be alone in a closed room or to go out together alone. As the hadith says “When a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan.

– There is no dating or living in defacto relationships with each other before they commit to each other seriously. There is to be no physical relationship before marriage. The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rates to understand this point. e.g. the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. “Romance” often dies out very quickly when we have to deal with the real world. Unrealistic expectations often contributes to problems within relationships. It is better to focus on compatibility of the couple and critical evaluation than solely physical attraction.

Consent of parties.

There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter.

One of the conditions of a valid marriage is consent of the couple. Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.

The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under Maliki school. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The Prophet said “The Widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained. The Prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

The husband/wife relationship.

The wife’s rights – the husband’s obligations.

(1) Maintenance

The husband is responsible for the wife’s maintenance. This right is established by authority of the Quran and Sunnah. It is inconsequential whether the wife is a Muslim , non-Muslim, rich, poor, healthy or sick. A component of his role is to bear the financial responsibility of the family in a generous way so that his wife may be assured security.

The wife’s maintenance entails her right to lodging, clothing, food and general care, like medication, hospital bills etc. He must provide for her where he resides himself according to his means. The wife’s lodging must be adequate so as to ensure her privacy, comfort and independence.

If a wife has been used to a maid or is unable to attend to her household duties, it is the husbands duty to provide her with a maid if he can afford to do so. The Prophet is reported to have said: “The best Muslim is one who is the best husband.”

(2) “Mahr”

The wife is entitled to a marriage gift that is her own. This may be prompt or deferred depending on the agreement between the parties. A marriage is not valid without Mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. It can be non-material like teaching her to read the Quran. ” Mahr” is a gift from the groom to the bride. This is the Islamic law, unlike some cultures whereby the bride’s parents pay the future husband to marry the daughter. This practice degrades women and is contrary to the spirit of Islam. There is no specification in the Qur’an as to what or how much the Mahr has to be. It depends on the parties involved.

(3) Non-material rights.

A husband is commanded by the law of God to treat his wife with equity, respect her feelings and show kindness and consideration, especially if he has another wife. The Prophet’s Last Sermon stresses kindness to women.

The wife’s obligations – the husband’s rights.

One of the main duties of the wife is to contribute to the success and happiness of the marriage. She should be attentive to the comfort and well-being of her husband and vice-versa. The Quranic Ayah which illustrates this point is:

“Our Lord, grant us wives and offspring who will be the coolness of our eyes and guide us to be models for the righteous”

The wife should be trustworthy and honest. She cannot deceive her husband by deliberately avoiding conceiving. She should not have any sexual intimacy with anyone other than her husband. She should not receive or entertain strange males in the house without his knowledge and consent. She should not accept gifts from other men without his approval. This is meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion and gossip. She shouldn’t dispose of his belongings without his permission.

A wife should make herself attractive to her husband and be responsive to his advances. The wife should not refuse her husband without reason as this may lead to marital problems and worse still – tempt the man to adultery. The husband, of course, should take into account the wife’s health and consideration of circumstances.


The purpose of ‘obedience’ in a relationship is to keep the family unit running as smoothly as possible. Obedience does not mean blind obedience. It is subject to conditions:

(a) It is required only if what is asked from the wife is within the permissible categories of action.

(b) It must be maintained only with regard to matters that fall under the husband’s rights.

Link to original article: http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html


Importance of Prayer

Direct communication with Allah

“The closest a person is to His Lord is when he is in prostration.”

Through prayer, you are able to connect with your Lord. The Arabic word for prayer (As-Salah) is actually derived from the Arabic word meaning “connection.” The Messenger of Allah * said: “When any one of you stands to pray, he is communicating with his Lord, so let him pay attention to how he speaks to Him.”  Don’t cut this relationship between you and your Creator.

 A pillar of Islam

Prayer is the second most important pillar of Islam, and is the most regular compulsory action in a Muslim’s life. We fast just one month a year; we must give Zakah once a year; and Hajj is only once a life time. However, prayer is the one act that must be fulfilled at least five times a day, regardless of the circumstance . In fact, Allah did not even exempt the Muslims from praying during the battle! He says:

“Guard strictly your (habit of) prayers… If you fear (an enemy), pray on foot, or riding. ” Qur’an 2:238-9

If this is the case in the time of war, then what about in peace?

Success lies in the Prayer

The Prophet * said: “The first of his deeds for which a man will be called to account on the Day of Resurrection will be the prayers. If it is found to be perfect, he will be safe and successful. But if it is defective, he will be unfortunate and a loser.”

 Its Benefits

 Shields against evil

Man was created weak and without seeking help from Allah, it will be impossible to refrain from evil.

Allah says: “Verily, prayer restrains (oneself) from shameful and unjust deeds…” Qur’an 29:45

There is no doubt that the one who stands in front of Allah willingly will be different from the one who doesn’t. How can you continue to commit the same sins if you’re standing before Allah 5 times a day?

Enriches the soul

Man is forgetful, especially with the our busy lifestyles. Prayer satisfies our spiritual need to be in contact with our Creator. This gives the soul peace and contentment.

Allah says, “Without doubt, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction.” Qur’an 13:28

 Makes us humble

By realising Allah’s greatness and dependence on our Lord, man is humbled and rids us from pride and arrogance. In the prayer, the Muslim puts the highest part of his body and source of intellect, his head, on to the ground and says, “How perfect is my Lord, The Most High.”

Humbleness is one of the qualities which Allah has associated with success.

He says, “Successful indeed are the believers, who are humble in their prayers.” Qur’an 23:1-2

Of course this can only be achieved when one understands what one is reciting and concentrates with humility.

Washes away sins

Everyone commits sins, however, Allah has provided, in prayer, a way to wipe out those sins.

Allah says: And perform prayer… surely the good deeds remove the evils deeds. Qur’an 11:114

The Messenger gave a beautiful example when he said to his companions: “Consider if one of you had a river by his door in which he bathed five times a day. Would any filth remain on him?” They said, “No.” Then the Prophet replied: “Likewise, Allah wipes away sins with the five daily prayers.”

Cures our Problems

Man is surrounded by numerous trials and problems. Once we focus on strengthening our relationship with our Lord, He, who is All-Powerful, will fix our worldly problems. Like our scholars say, whoever strengthens their relationship between themselves and Allah, Allah will strengthen their relationship between themselves and the creation.

Allah says, Seek help in patience and prayer. Qur’an 2:153

 Unites the Muslims

When the prayer is performed in congregation, it cultivates brotherhood, equality and humility between Muslims. The worshippers stand in rows, shoulder to shoulder, without any distinction of race, nationality, colour, wealth, family or status, and all pray together as one body. This act of unity helps demolish all barriers which stand between men.

The Prophet * said, “Prayer in congregation is better than praying alone by twenty-seven degrees.”

 Abandoning Prayer

“O Mankind, What has deceived you concerning your Lord, the Most Generous?” Qur’an 82:06

You are disobeying your Creator

This is the most serious and obvious consequence. The whole purpose of your existence is to worship Allah, yet you are disobeying your Creator every day.

“Then, there has succeeded them a generation who have given up prayer and have followed their desires. So they will be thrown in Hell. Except those who repent and believe, and work righteousness.” Qur’an 19:59-60

“(The people in Hell will be asked:) What has caused you to enter Hell? They will say: We were not of those who used to pray…” Qur’an 74:42-43

 You are being ungrateful

Refusing the invitation of your Creator to establish this close relationship with Him is the ultimate ingratitude. Allah created you and gave you everything,

He says,  “ It is He who has created you and endowed you with hearing and seeing and hearts, little are you grateful.”      Qur’an 67:23

The Prophet’s feet would sometimes get swollen because he would stand in prayer for lengthy periods, and when asked about this, he would reply: “Should I not be a grateful servant of my Lord?”

 You are being lazy

What excuse will you give to your Creator, the Creator of the heavens and the earth, on the Day of Judgement?  The One who blessed you with 24 hours, yet only asked that you spend about 30 minutes a day for prayer.

The Prophet * said, “On the Day of Resurrection the feet of the son of Adam will not move away till he is questioned about five matters: on what he spent his life; in doing what he made his youth pass away; where he acquired his property, and on what he spent it; and what he did regarding what he knew.”

 You will be miserable

The human that has no connection with Allah helplessly seeks an alternative and leaves no stone unturned looking for calmness and bliss. It, however, searches in vain, wandering aimlessly.

Allah says: “ And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed for him is a life of hardship. And We will raise him on the Day of Resurrection, blind. He will say, “My Lord, why have you raised me blind while I was (once) seeing?” (Allah) will say, “Thus did Our signs come to you, and you forgot (disregarded) them; and thus will you, this Day, be forgotten.”   Qur’an 20:124-6

 You are only harming yourself

Allah doesn’t need your prayer. Allah doesn’t need anything from anyone-Glory be to Him. It is you that stands in need of His mercy.

“Give thanks to Allah, and whoever gives thanks, it is only for his own soul’s good, and whoever is ungrateful, surely Allah is Free of all needs, Worthy of all praise.” Qur’an 31:12

 You are flirting with disbelief

Many Scholars of Islam hold the opinion that the one who does not pray is a disbeliever. They quote the following hadeeth:

“The covenant which distinguishes between us and them (i.e., between believers and disbelievers) is the prayer, and whoever neglects it has disbelieved.”

Additionally, the companions of the Prophet * did not consider the abandonment of any act as disbelief, except for prayer.

 Common Excuses

No time/ Work  / Study/ Busy Pure and simple deception. You haven’t given prayers priority.  Allah will bless your time and make you more effective, efficient and successful.
My heart is clean Allah judges who has clean hearts, and He wants us to pray!  Actions will reflect what is in your heart. No one has a cleaner heart than Prophet Muhammad * who used to pray regularly.
My alarm It’s hard for your alarm to go off, if you don’t SET it !!! Purify your intention and sleep according to the Sunnah.
My family/ spouse/ parents/ friends prevent me. The Prophet * said, “There is no obedience to anyone in disobedience to Allah.” You will be judged alone.
Praying after its time / joining prayers “Surely, the prayers are made obligatory for the believers at their prescribed times.”  Qur’an 4:103
I’m sinning too much In time, your prayers will prevent you from committing these sins – just pray! You are sinning because you are not praying.

Contemplate over this hadeeth: “If they knew the merits of the ‘Isha and Fajr prayers, they would come to them (in the mosque) even if they had to crawl.”

What excuse do we honestly have when we face our Lord on that difficult Day?


Source: http://islamicpamphlets.com

Islamic History Part 1 of 5

In or about the year 570 the child who would be named Muhammad and who would become the Prophet of one of the world’s great religions, Islam, was born into a family belonging to a clan of Quraish, the ruling tribe of Mecca, a city in the Hijaz region of northwestern Arabia.

Originally the site of the Kaabah, a shrine of ancient origins, Mecca had, with the decline of southern Arabia, become an important center of sixth-century trade with such powers as the Sassanians, Byzantines, and Ethiopians.  As a result, the city was dominated by powerful merchant families, among whom the men of Quraish were preeminent.

Muhammad’s father, “Abd Allah ibn” Abd al-Muttalib, died before the boy was born; his mother, Aminah, died when he was six.  The orphan was consigned to the care of his grandfather, the head of the clan of Hashim.  After the death of his grandfather, Muhammad was raised by his uncle, Abu Talib.  As was customary, the child Muhammad was sent to live for a year or two with a Bedouin family.  This custom, followed until recently by noble families of Mecca, Medina, Taif, and other towns of the Hijaz, had important implications for Muhammad.  In addition to enduring the hardships of desert life, he acquired a taste for the rich language so loved by the Arabs, whose speech was their proudest art, and also learned the patience and forbearance of the herdsmen, whose life of solitude he first shared, and then came to understand and appreciate.

About the year 590, Muhammad, then in his twenties, entered the service of a merchant widow named Khadijah as her factor, actively engaged with trading caravans to the north.  Sometime later he married her, and had two sons, neither of whom survived, and four daughters by her.

In his forties, he began to retire to meditate in a cave on Mount Hira, just outside Mecca, where the first of the great events of Islam took place.  One day, as he was sitting in the cave, he heard a voice, later identified as that of the Angel Gabriel, which ordered him to:

“Recite: In the name of thy Lord who created, Created man from a clot of blood.” (Quran 96:1-2)

Three times Muhammad pleaded his inability to do so, but each time the command was repeated.  Finally, Muhammad recited the words of what are now the first five verses of the 96th chapter of the Quran – words which proclaim God to be the Creator of man and the Source of all knowledge.

At first Muhammad divulged his experience only to his wife and his immediate circle.  But, as more revelations enjoined him to proclaim the oneness of God universally, his following grew, at first among the poor and the slaves, but later, also among the most prominent men of Mecca.  The revelations he received at this time, and those he did later, are all incorporated in the Quran, the Scripture of Islam.

Not everyone accepted God’s message transmitted through Muhammad.  Even in his own clan, there were those who rejected his teachings, and many merchants actively opposed the message.  The opposition, however, merely served to sharpen Muhammad’s sense of mission, and his understanding of exactly how Islam differed from paganism.  The belief in the Oneness of God was paramount in Islam; from this all else follows.  The verses of the Quran stress God’s uniqueness, warn those who deny it of impending punishment, and proclaim His unbounded compassion to those who submit to His will.  They affirm the Last Judgment, when God, the Judge, will weigh in the balance the faith and works of each man, rewarding the faithful and punishing the transgressor.  Because the Quran rejected polytheism and emphasized man’s moral responsibility, in powerful images, it presented a grave challenge to the worldly Meccans.

Children Rights In Islam

The Rights of Children in Islam

By Sheikh Al-Uthaymeen

Let us first establish that children in accordance with the Islamic concept means both male and female. Some Islamic opponents accuse Islam of differentiating between male and female children claiming that Islam prefers boys over girls in terms of inheritance, ‘Aqeeqa (slaughter of two lambs upon the birth of a male baby, and one lamb only for a baby girl) and other matters. In accordance with the true Islamic teaching, both male and female are alike in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. Each, however, is physically prepared and equipped to perform certain tasks and duties that are suitable to his/her nature. All, again are equal in religious duties, except for certain exceptions that are defined and illustrated by Allah, the Almighty, in the Glorious Quran, or declared and specified by Allah’s Apostle, PBUH. Only these differences are to be acknowledged and honored and only in accordance with Islam and its teachings.

Children, according to Islam, are entitled to various rights. The first and foremost of these rights is the right to be properly brought up, raised and educated. This means that children should be given suitable, sufficient, sound and adequate religious, ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entire lives. They should be engraved with true values, the meaning of right and wrong, true and false, correct and incorrect, appropriate and inappropriate and so forth and so on. Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Qur’an:

“O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is People and Stones.” (66:6)

Allah’s Apostle, PBUH also said: “Every one of you (people) is a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them.” This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim.

Children, therefore are a trust given to the parents. Parents will be responsible for this trust on the Day of Judgement. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and the basic and essential religious teachings of their children.

If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences on the Day of Judgement. The children will become better citizens and a pleasure to the eyes of their parents, first in this life, and in the hereafter.

Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Quran:

“And those who believe and whose families follow them in Faith, to them shall We join their families: Nor shall We deprive them (of the fruit) of aught of their works: (Yet) is each individual in pledge for his deeds.” (52:21)

Moreover, Allah’s Apostle, PBUH said: “Upon death, man’s deeds will (definitely) stop except for three deeds, namely: a continuous charitable fund, endowment or goodwill; knowledge left for people to benefit from; and pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously prays Allah, the Almighty, for the soul of his parents.” This Hadith is reported by Muslim.

In fact, such a statement reflects the value of the proper upbringing of children. It has an everlasting effect, even after death.

Unfortunately, many parents from every walk of life, in every society, regardless of creed, origin, social and economical status, etc., have neglected this very important imposed right of their own children on them. Such individuals have indeed lost their children as a result of their own negligence. Such parents are so careless about the time their children spend with no benefit, the friends they associate with, the places they go to, etc. Such parents do not care, are totally indifferent about where their children go, when they come back and so forth and so on, causing the children to grow up without any responsible adult and without caring supervision. Such parents neglect even to instruct, direct or guide their children to the proper way of life, behaviour or even right attitudes towards others. Yet, you may find these parents are so careful about guarding their wealth. They are extremely concerned about their businesses, work and otherwise. They exert every possible effort to lead a very successful life in terms of materialistic gains, although all this wealth is not actually theirs. No one will take wealth to the grave.

Children are not only to be well-fed, well-groomed, properly dressed for the weather and for appearance, well-taken care of in terms of housing and utilities. It is more important to offer the child comparable care in terms of educational, religious training, and spiritual guidance. The heart of a child must be filled with faith. A child’s mind must be entertained with proper guidance, knowledge and wisdom. Clothes, food, housing, schooling are not, by any means, an indication of proper care of the child. Proper education and guidance is far more important to a child than this food, grooming and appearance.

One of the due rights of children upon their parents is their spending for their welfare and well-being moderately. Over-spending or negligence is not condoned, accepted or even tolerated in Islam. Such ways will have a negative effect on the child regardless of the social status. Men are urged not to be miserly to their children and households, who are their natural heirs in every religion and society. Why would one be miserly to those who are going to inherit his wealth? Children are entitled to such an important right. They are even permitted to take moderately from their parent’s wealth to sustain themselves if the parent declines to give them proper funds for their living.

Children also have the right to be treated equally in terms of financial gifts. No one should be preferred over the others. All must be treated fairly and equally. None should be deprived his gift from the parents. Depriving, or banning the right of inheritance, or other financial gifts during the lifetime of the parents or the preference of a parent for one child over the other is considered according to Islam as an act of injustice. Injustice will definitely lead to an atmosphere of hatred, anger and dismay amongst the children in a household. In fact, such an act of injustice may, most likely, lead to animosity amongst the children, and consequently, this will affect the entire family environment. In certain cases a special child may show a tender care for his aging parent, for instance, causing the parent to grant such a child a special gift, or issue him the ownership of a house, a factory, a land, a farm, a car, or any other valuable items. Islam, however considers such a financial reward to such a caring, loving and perhaps obedient child, a wrong act. A caring child is entitled only to a reward from Allah, the Almighty. Although it is nice to grant such a child something in appreciation for his dedication and special efforts, this must not lead to an act of disobedience to Allah, the Almighty. It may be that the heart and feelings of such a loving and caring child may change, at one point in time, causing him to become a nasty and harmful child. By the same token, a nasty child may change, at any given time, as well, to become a very caring and kind child to the same parent. The hearts and feelings are, as we all know, in the hands of Allah, the Almighty, and can be turned in any direction at any given time and without any previous notice. This, indeed, is one of the reasons for preventing the act of financial preference of a child over another. On the other hand, there is also no assurance or guarantee that a caring child can handle the financial gift of his parent wisely.

It is narrated by Abu Bakr, RAA, who said that Allah’s Apostle, PBUH, was approached by one of his companions, al-N’uman bin Basheer, who said: “O Prophet of Allah! I have granted a servant to one of my children (asking him to testify to that gift).” But Allah’s PBUH asked him: “Did you grant the same to each and every child of yours?” When Allah’s Apostle, PBUH was informed negatively about that, he said: “Fear Allah, the Almighty, and be fair and just to all your children. Seek the testimony of another person, other than me. I will not testify to an act of injustice.” This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim. Thus, Allah’s Apostle, PBUH called such an act of preference of one child over the others an act of “injustice.” Injustice is prohibited and forbidden in Islam.

But, if a parent granted one of his children financial help to fulfill a necessity, such as a medical treatment coverage, the cost of a marriage, the cost of initializing a business, etc., then such a grant would not be categorized an act of injustice and unfairness. Such a gift will fall under the right to spend in the essential needs of the children, which is a requirement that a parent must fulfill.

Islam sees that if parents fulfill their duties towards all their children in terms of providing them with necessary training, educational backing, moral, ethical and religious education, this will definitely lead to a more caring child, a better family atmosphere and a better social environment and awareness. On the other hand, any negligence in those parental duties can lead to the loss of a child or ill treatment of the parents at a later age.

Source: https://www.missionislam.com