Rights of Relatives (Silat ul Arham)

Rights of Relatives (Silat ul Arham)

The word ‘silat ul Arham’ in Arabic literally means connection of the womb. All of our relations have rights upon us.

A parent making dua for their child while they are happy with him/her is indeed a true blessing. During wartime, one of the Sahaba was captured by the disbelievers his parents went up to the Prophet (SAW) and asked for help. He (SAW) just told them, “You and your wife go and during the night recite La Hawla wala quwwata, Illa billah.” They followed the Prophets advice and probably went on with the recitation for 2-3 nights and then the following night their son returned home along with a herd of sheep. He told his parents that one night he found that the links of the chains with which he was held captive, suddenly loosening and opening up. He escaped in the night and then found a herd of sheep that followed him home. Such is the power of the dua of the parent and of La Hawla wala quwwata, Illa billah.

A Hadith of the Prophet (SAW) states, when Allah SWT created the creation, the representative of the womb went and attached itself to the waist of Allah as if seeking protection. Allah (SWT) said to it “Wait! Is it not enough for you that I will connect myself to the one that connects to you and I will cut off the one who cuts you off”. This is one powerful warning for keeping up the ties of Kinship.

In Surah Mohammad ayah 22-23, Allah (SWT) says, Then is it to be expected of you if ye will do no mischief in the land and break your ties of kith and kin? Such are the men whom Allah has cursed for He has made them deaf and blinded their sight.”

Many blessings may come to you just because you may have kept good relations with your relatives (Silat ul arham).

The companions of the Prophet (SAW) asked him if our parents have rights upon us after their death, He (SAW) replied, yes:

-You must pray on them their funeral prayer and pray for their forgiveness.

-You must carry out their covenant or promise.

-You must keep up the ties of their kinship.

The Prophet (SAW) told all mankind: make peace by all means, (speech and deeds) feed food to all (rich and poor), have good connection with your kin and pray at night when people sleep, you will enter Jannah (paradise) in peace. The Prophet (SAW) gave this message while still seated on his camel upon reaching Medina after migration from Mecca.

In another hadith, the Prophet (SAW) says that those who believe in Allah and the Day of Judgment be generous to your guest, speak good or keep silent and Allah will expand your rizq (sustenance) and increase your age. Here increase in age does not necessarily imply that years will be added to it, rather there will be blessing in that life.

Journey of the Hereafter – Part 2

The Grave:

When a righteous person dies, Angel of mercy comes to take his soul. When a hypocrite or a sinner dies, it is the Angel of punishment that comes to take his soul. It is an immensely difficult thing for the soul to leave the body, surely it would be made easier by the angel of mercy and how painful it would be when the angel of punishment is doing so. Each soul will answer three questions in the grave:

Who is your Lord? Who is your Prophet? What is your religion?

When a righteous person answers, Allah is my Lord, Muhammad is my Prophet, and Islam is my religion. A voice from the heavens will tell the angel “my servant answered in truth”. He will be left in peace until the resurrection begins.

When a hypocrite or sinners tries to answer, that, I heard that Allah is The Lord and so on, a voice from the heaven will say that, “he is nothing but a liar”! The angel then slams that person with a hammer until he turns to dust, the grave is filled with fire and this punishment continues till the resurrection. May Allah protect us!

When a man dies he leaves behind 3 things: Family, wealth and his deeds. The only thing that remains with him in his grave are his deeds. These deeds take on the shape of some creation. For the believer it is a beautiful and pleasing being, when he asks ‘who are you?’ The reply is ‘I am your good deeds’. When the person is dealt with good in the grave, than what is ahead is even better. So the person prays ‘O Allah let the day of judgement begin so I may receive the truth’. While the hypocrite/ disbeleiver sees an ugly creature in the grave as his deeds. Their grave is exposed to the hellfire. They say “O Allah do not let the hour begin ” for them what is ahead is far worse.The grave is a very lonely place.

Asma bint Abu Bakr told that she once heard everyone crying and weeping and there was an uproar in the masjid. It was when the Prophet( SAW) was talking about the trials of the grave. He (SAW) said that everyone would be squeezed by the earth. Sa’ad ibn Muadh was a Sahaba who had hosted the Prophet in Madinah. RasulAllah(SAW) said that when he died, the Arsh of Allah Shook, 70,000 Angels accompanied his funeral and that, even he was not spared the squeezing by the earth!

Reasons for the punishment in the grave:

Stealing, Slander and lying – Prophet (SAW) once passing by a 2 graves said, the 2 men in these graves are being punished for something minor one for not cleaning after urinating and the second one because he used to slander other people.

Neglecting the Quran – not reciting or listening.Their head will be crushed with a rock repeatedly until the day of Judgement.

Dealing with Interest, Adultery, Debt not repaid – debt has serious implications in the hereafter, Prophet(SAW) said that a Martyr (Shaheed) would sit by the door of Jannah until his debt is paid off. The longest Ayah in Surah Bakarah (282) is regarding debt it is sometimes known as Ayah Addain. Prophet(SAW) only prayed the janazah prayer of anyone after he made sure that they did not owe any debt.

Having good deeds will save one from the punishment of the grave. These good deeds will come from above, beneath and the sides and will make an argument for the dead

The day of Judgement or Qiyama is known by many names such as:

Qiyama is the Day of standing, referring to the Day of Judgment. The following are some of the names that are used to reference the Day of Judgment:

Yawm al Ba’ath – Day of resurrection

Yawm az Zalzala – Day of Earthquake

Yawm an Nushoor – Day of resurrection

Yawm at Tamma – Day you cannot get out of

Yawm as Sa’akha – Day that hits you

Yawm al Azifa – The Day true news is announced and when it starts there is no stopping

Yawm al Hisab – Day of reckoning

Yawm ul Jamma – Day of gathering

Yawm at Talaaq – Day of meeting

Yawm al Haqq – Day of Truth

Yawm at Tagabun – Day of exchanging deeds(meeting out justice by exchanging deeds)

Yawm ul Wa’eed – Day of warning

Yawm ul Hasrah – Day of regret

Yawm al Ghashiyah – A day that will cover you all over with no escape(overwhelming)

Yawm ud Deen – Day of Judgment

Yawm ul Khuruj – Day of exiting graves

Yawm al Akhirah – The last Day

Yawm as Sa’a – Day of the hour

Yawm al Qaria – Day of the Calamity or striking

Yawm al Fasl – Day of Separation when the final decision is enforced

Yawm al Ma’ab – Day of Return

Yawm al Ard – Day of Exhibition

Yawm al Khafida ar Rafiya – A Day that brings some low and exalts others

Yawm al A’seer – A Day of distress or an immensely difficult day

Yawm al Azeem – A Great Day

Yawm al Mashhood – The Day Witnessed

Yawm al A’qeem – The Day Held

Yawm al Qasaas – Day of revenge

Yawm ul Jiza – Day of compensation

Yawm un Nafkha – Day when the trumpet is blown

Yawm un Naaqoor – Day when the trumpet is sounded

Yawm ul Firaar – Day of fleeing

Yawm at Tublas Sarairah – Day or revealing secrets


After Angel Israfeel blows the first trumpet all of creation will be destroyed and then Allah SWT will ask, “who has the Kingdom today?” Allah SWT will answer, ‘It is for Allah alone, the irrisistible’. Keep the Day of Judgment in your heart at all times.

Say your prayers knowing that:

Allah sees you from above

The Sirat (bridge over hellfire) is below you

The heaven is to your right and

The hell to your left

The Angel of death behind you &

The Kaba’ in front of you


Journey of the Hereafter – Part 1

Journey of the Hereafter

Importance of the hereafter

Our existence is in many stages.

Our first stage was when the entire humanity was in the form of seeds and Allah took a

covenant from the first of us to the last of us, Surah Araf ayah 172, Allah says, “Am I not

your Lord? They said: yea, verily, we testify. Lest ye should say at the Day of

resurrection: Lo! Of this we were unaware”.

Second stage is in the womb of the mothers.

Third stage is our finite life here on earth.

Fourth stage is the time spent in our graves.

Fifth stage is on the Day of Judgement. For some of us it could be as long as 50,000 years and for some it may be as short as the time between Dhuhr and Asr. Sixth stage is living in Heaven or Hell!

Humans believe that they belong to the earth, when in reality we came from Jannah and must work hard to get back to where our father Adam(AS) came from; Jannah. A believer must have a firm belief in the hereafter. The belief in the hereafter will prevent us from all kinds of sins. Once Angel Jibreel came to the Prophet (SAW) in the form of a student of knowledge and asked him 4 questions, the questions and the Prophets’ replies were:

Q1. What is Islam?

Ans:It is the belief in the oneness of Allah and that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah, the 5 obligatory prayers, salat, Zakat, fasting in the month of Ramadan and performing Hajj.

Q2. What is Imaan?

Ans. The belief in Allah and His attributes, the Angels, the Holy books, the Prophets, the Day of Judgement, and predestination.

Q3. What is Ihsan?

Ans. To worship Allah as if you see Him, or if you don’t see Him, worship Him as if He sees you.

Q4. When will the hour (Day of Judgement) begin?

Ans. The one asked knows no better than the one asking.

The Prophet (saw) has asked us to remember death and the journey to the hereafter often. A Hadith of his states that “Remember death much, the destroyer of pleasures.” The period of time when a person is in and out of the state of consciousness is a very difficult time. Pharoah when seeing his death come upon him was trying to say that “I believe in the God of the children of Israel”, Jibreel AS said that he was preventing him from saying that by stuffing mud in his mouth. In the case of believers, however, Allah will keep them strong and firm, in life and in death. Allah says in Surah Ibrahim Ayah 27, “Allah will establish in strength those who believe, with the word that stands firm, in this world and in the hereafter; but Allah will leave, to stray, those who do wrong: Allah does what he wills.”

Signs of one with a good end:

One who dies with the Shahada on his tongue. Don’t force the dying to say the shahadah, rather keep saying it audibly yourself.

If death comes on Friday or the night of Friday (Thursday night), that person is saved from the trial of the grave.

A believer may sweat a lot on his death bed.

Passing away while carrying out a good deed. They would resurrected on the Day of Judgment on that good deed.

Prophet (SAW) said: ‘Your ending is according to the last deed done by you’. Allah deals with us according to what is in our hearts. The intention of a person determines if the action is good or bad. One must be careful of their intention before any action, during the action and after the action. For every action you will be questioned why and how you did it. Actions cannot be against the Sunnah as innovation is prohibited.

Who is a Shaheed?

A believer who dies in Battlefield, in way of Allah.

A believer who has an illness of the stomach and is patient through it and dies from it.

A believer who dies of burns.

A believer who dies of drowning.

A believer who dies in the collapse of a building.

A woman who dies delivering a baby: her infant would drag her to Jannah.

At his death a Shaheed is shown his place in, Jannah, is spared from the trial of the grave and the trial of a most fearful day, the Day of Judgement. 72,000 Hoor ul Ain are for him and he will be given intercession for 70 family members!


A person is in need of complete peace during three stages;

  • when a child enters the world from his mothers womb.
  • when a person leaves this world.
  • when the person comes out of the grave for the Day of Judgement.

The righteous people will have angels with them. Allah says in Surah Fussilat ayah 30-31, “In the case of those who say, ‘our lord is Allah’, and further stand straight and steadfast, the angels descend on them (from time to time) ‘ fear ye not!, They suggest nor grieve!’ But receive the glad tidings of the garden of bliss, the which ye were promised! ‘we are your protectors in this life and in the hereafter:’ therein shall ye have all that your souls shall desire, therein shall ye have all that ye ask for.”

Prophet(saw) said to recite Surah Yaseen over your dead. It’s meaning is to recite it while the person is in the throes of death as well. The soul of a person does not leave the body very easily.

We must pray to Allah that we die as believers, we must pray for a good ending and never rely on our deeds alone, it is the mercy of Allah alone that will bring us to a good end. Once a Bedouin came to the Prophet and made dua: He said “O Allah make the best of my life, my end. The best of my deeds as my last one. And make the best of my day, when I meet You, Allah!” To this the Prophet(saw) said Ameen!





Allah (swt) did not ask the Prophet (SAW) to increase in anything other than knowledge. Surah Taha (Ayah 114), “High above all is Allah, the King, the Truth! Be not in haste with the Qur’an before its revelation to thee is completed, but say, ‘O my Lord! Increase me in knowledge’.”

The best provision for the journey of life is Taqwa, among its many descriptions; it is the fear of Allah, knowledge of religion and the application of knowledge. Having Taqwa is a barrier to Allah’s punishment. Seek knowledge to increase in Taqwa and spread goodness for the sake of Allah.

Imam Hanifa was a businessman. A very popular imam of his time was Imam Ash Shabi, who once told him that, and “I have seen in you intelligence and an active mind”. Inspired by these words he started his quest for knowledge and went on to become one of the most knowledgeable in matters of the religion of Islam. Allah (swt) says, “Those who have knowledge are not the same as those who do not.” When Allah wishes good for someone, He bestows on him the understanding of His religion.

Envy is permitted in two cases, a man whom Allah gives wealth and he disposes of it to please Allah and a man on whom Allah bestows knowledge and he applies it and teaches it to others. If a single person is guided to Allah because of you, it is better for you than a lot of red Camels, it is better for you than the whole world and what it contains or better for you than what the sun rises over.

Abu Hurairah narrated, Prophet (SAW) said, “Allah makes the way to Jannah easy for him who treads the path in search of knowledge”. Knowledge is like rain, a land absorbs it and produces food and fruits, stony and rocky land holds the water for people and animals. There’s another kind of land that would absorb the water but produce nothing. When you learn something of your religion, teach it to others.

Narrated by Tirmidhi, Prophet (SAW) says, “Verily Allah and His Angels, dwellers of the heaven and earth, even the ants in their holes, the whale in the sea, praises the one who teaches knowledge that is beneficial”.

This world and all that it contains is cursed except for three things:

  • The remembrance of Allah (SWT) and all that you do to please Allah with.
  • A Scholar.
  • A Student of knowledge.

The Superiority of a scholar over a worshipper is like that of the Prophet (SAW) over the lowest among the companions. Time spent in learning and teaching beneficial knowledge is better than standing in worship all night (Qiyam ul Lail). The time spent in search of knowledge is like being in Jihad, you’re in the care and protection of Allah.

A gathering where people sit and discuss and recite Qur’an, Allah covers them with mercy, sends tranquility upon them and mentions them in the company of Angels.

Prophets do not leave behind any worldly belongings as inheritance. The inheritance of Prophets is only Knowledge.

Excellence of Knowledge, Aalim, means knower of the seen and unseen. Aleem means having deep knowledge. Above every person of knowledge there is one with more knowledge and Allah (SWT) is above all those who have knowledge.


Pets in Islam

Pets in Islam

(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

In Surah Isra Allah swt says, “we explained everything in detail.”

In Surah Al An’am, Allah says that Islam is for all of humanity. Islam is a universal religion. Allah says to our Prophet(SAW), “say to them that, rituals (nusukh), my prayers, my entire life and the way I die should be according to the religion of Islam.” You cannot believe in some part of the religion and disbelieve in another part. It is said in Surah Baqarah that such a person would be dishonored in this life and put to the most severe punishment in the hereafter.

Dogs are Allah’s creation and Allah is more merciful to his creation than a mother is to her child. Surah Kahf (ayah 22) mentions the men of the cave as 3 and the dog being the 4th or 5 and the dog being the 6th and so on. Allah mentions them with a clear distinction between the young men and the dog.

There’s a story of a prostitute, living a life of sin, she saw a dog panting from thirst. She had mercy in her heart and went to the well and filled her shoe with water and let the dog drink from it. This act of hers’ was loved by Allah so much, that she was forgiven all her sins.

On the contrary a woman was sent to the hellfire because she tied up a cat and did not give her any food nor let her go to find food. This clearly means that Allah wants us to be kind to animals. Abu Hurrairah’s real name was AbdurRahman Ibn Sakhr. He was given the name Abu Hurrairah, meaning father of Kitten, by the Prophet (SAW).  He carried a kitten up his sleeve and put it down to pray.

Living in our society we see that, dogs as pets is a very common and popular practice. It is a Hadith that, when you follow the customs of a group of people, you will be resurrected with the same group of people on the Day of Judgment. In Surah Maeda Ayah 100, “Say, Not equal are things that are bad and things that are good, even though the abundance of the bad may dazzle thee.”

Dogs have certain uses for guarding, hunting, herding. They may also be used for the blind. Surah Maeda(Ayah 4) mentions the use of trained dogs for hunting.

Dogs are not allowed to be inside the house, living in the same space. The saliva of Dogs is impure, if it touches a part of us then we must wash it, you however do not loose Wudhu. Prophet(SAW) said whoever keeps a dog for no particular reason, looses reward from his scale of Hasanat(good deeds) equal to one Qirat every day(Qirat equal to Mount Uhud). Angels do not enter a home where there are dogs. Once Prophet (SAW) waited a very long time for Jibrael AS to appear even though he had promised the visit, when he came the Prophet(SAW) asked him why he was late and Jibrael AS said that he waited until a dog who had come with some people left the house.

Dog hair is not impure when dry. All Dog waste is impure. It is the Prophet’s saying that, if a dog licks a vessel, it should be washed seven times and the last time with dirt or soil.

It is permissible to kill a violent and harmful dog.

Three types of revenue is Haram 1. Income from selling dogs

  1. Dowry of a prostitute, 3. A fortuneteller’s income.

Abu Hurrairah(RA) forbid us to act like 3 animals in prayer.

  1. Going in sujood like a rooster bends his neck up and down to eat.
  2. Resting ones arms in sujood like a dog sitting down.
  3. To turn quickly like a fox when saying salam.

Surat Al-Kahaf

Surat Al-Kahaf

(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

why are we asked to read Surah Kahf every Friday? The brief explanation is as follows:

  1. Prophet (SAW) said that surah Kahf brings for the one who recites a special light from one          Friday to the next.
  2. The Angels recognize you.
  3. A connection is established between you and Bait Al Haram.
  4. Its recitation is a protection from the trials of Messiah Al Dajjal. No other Prophet before warned about Dajjal. The worst fitna is that of the Dajjal, which would turn a believer into a disbeliever.

Surah Kahf talks about 4 trials in life. Trial of religion, Trial of Money/Wealth, Trial of knowledge and Trial of Authority/Power.

A brief background into its revelation: A group of men from Mecca came to the Jews in Medina, who had knowledge of the old scripture’s. They wanted to put Prophet Muhammad(SAW) in a difficult situation. They asked the Jewish rabbis about the Messenger of Allah. They described him to them and told them some of what he had said. They said, `You are the people of the Tawrah and we have come to you so that you can tell us about this companion of ours.’ They (the rabbis) said, `Ask him about three things which we will tell you to ask, and if he answers them then he is a Prophet who has been sent (by Allah); if he does not, then he is saying things that are not true. Ask him about some young men in ancient times what was their story? Ask him about a man who traveled a great deal and reached the east and the west of the earth. What was his story and ask him about the Ruh (soul or spirit). If he tells you about these things, then he is a Prophet, so follow him, but if he does not tell you, then he is a man who is making things up, so deal with him as you see fit. The People put these questions to The Prophet (SAW), who asked them to come the next day for the answers, hoping for a revelation from Allah for the answers. The Prophet (SAW) forgot to say InshaAllah. He did not receive any revelation for the next two weeks. However the next revelation that came was Surah Ad Duha, where Allah says in Ayah 3, “Thy guardian Lord hath not forsaken thee, nor is He displeased.” The revelation of Surah Kahf then gave the answers to the first two questions and to the third about the soul was given in Surah Isra.


1.The story of the young men was about the trial of religion. The lesson for us is to stick with good companions/believers. In times of trial of religion, they strengthen each other. The story of Dhul Qurnain, answered the second question.

  1. The Story of the man with a fertile garden with a river running in the midst and giving abundant harvest and his pride that this would last forever and no one could take it away. The lesson was that wealth does not last. Protect yourself from the hellfire by giving Sadaqa.
  2. Through the story of Moosa and Khidr, Allah tells us that even if you are very knowledgeable, know that someone else may have more knowledge. Because Moosa said he was the most knowledgeable, Allah showed him he could not say that. Khidr who was not a prophet but was more knowledgeable then Moosa. Moosa said he would not rest until he found him even if it took him centuries and asked Allah for a sign and found him. In this we are given the lesson of patience in gaining knowledge and to humble ourselves.
  3. Regardless of how powerful a person is on this earth, he will be judged by Allah.


Dajjal has all of the 4 trials mentioned in the Suarh. He would turn against the people of religion. He has every wealth; he has every knowledge, and has power/authority. The trial of Dajjal is the last of the trials before the Day of Judgment.




(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

One of the most amazing events in the life of our beloved Prophet (saw). Here is the summary:

The two journeys, the Isra (night journey to Jerusalem) and the Mairaj (the journey to the seven heavens) took place on the night of 27 Rajab before the migration to Medina. Jibrael (as) found the Prophet (saw) sleeping in the hateem area of the Kaaba. He opened his chest and washed his heart; this was most likely done in order to strengthen his heart and prepare him for his meeting with Allah (swt). He presented him with Buraq the animal, described as smaller than a horse and larger than a donkey. Jibrail (as) asks the Prophet (saw) to mount on Buraq. As the prophet approached Buraq, Jibrail (as) tells Buraq that “He (saw) is the most noble Prophet to take a ride on you”.

On reaching Jerusalem the Prophet (saw) tied Buraq to a stone and entered the Masjid Aqsa. Here, Allah (swt) gave the leadership of all Prophets to our Prophet (saw), where he led 124,000 Prophets in prayer. After the prayer the Prophet (saw) was presented with 2 cups to choose from: one of milk and one of wine – he chose milk and drank it. To this Jibrael (as) said “you chose the right drink and because of this you and your nation will be guided.” SubhanAllah!

For the Mairaj, the Prophet (saw) says he took Al Mairaj to go up to the seven heavens. What it looks like Allah knows best. At each heaven, Gibrael greeted the keeper with “Assalamalaikum”.

On the first heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Adam (as), who replied to him as “my righteous Prophet and son”.  The prophet said that every time Adam (as) looked to the left he wept as here he saw his descendants punished in hell, and when he looked to the right he laughed because here he saw them in heaven.

On the second heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Issa (as) and Yahya (as)

On the Third heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Yousef (as).

On the Fourth heaven, the prophet (saw) greeted Idris (as). He is one of the earliest prophets after Adam (as) and before Noah (as), and was friends with the angels. One day, he wanted to see the heavens so an angel took him on his wings to the heavens. On the 4th heaven, the Angel of death was commanded to take his soul and he died there. Allah (swt) has said that he is buried in heaven. SubhanAllah!

On the fifth heaven, the Prophet (saw) greeted Haroon (as).

On the sixth heaven, the Prophet (saw) greeted Moosa (as), who started crying as his people had lost the status of the most favored people of Allah.


On the seventh heaven Prophet (saw) found Ibrahim (as) leaning on Bait ul Ma’moor (meaning constructed house). It exists in heaven as Kaaba on earth; here 70,000 angels are in tawaf  continuously and never returning. What an honor for Ibrahim (as)! After this Jibrael (as) told the Prophet that he cannot accompany him any more, as he would burn, but told the Prophet (saw) that he could go on. The Prophet reached the Lote tree; the roots of this tree are in the sixth heaven and the branches and leaves extend into the seventh heaven. Four rivers start beneath this tree, 2 are in heaven: the Kauthar and Salsabeel, and two on this earth: the Nile and the twin rivers of Tigris and Euphrates in Iraq.


The Prophet on his return from Mairaj was very perplexed as he was wondering how to relate this incident to the people. Just then Abu Jahl was walking by and saw him worried and asked what happened. The Prophet (saw) told him that he went on a journey to Jerusalem and returned. In those days it would have taken two months. Abu Jahl laughed at him and called the people of Mecca and the Prophet Narrated to them about his Journey to Jerusalem. They began questioning him about what the city looked like , what the mosque was like, etc, etc. Just then to aid our Prophet (saw) Allah (swt) sent Jibrael (as), who lifted the entire city of Jerusalem for our Prophet to see and put their questions to rest. SubhanAllah!


People still asked for more proofs now he looked up at the sky and pointed at the moon and everyone saw it split in half. The disbelievers seeing this went on to call the prophet (saw) a magician. The prophet(saw) then asked them to wait for 3 days for the return of a caravan he had passed by. On his return journey to Mecca, while still riding on Buraq the prophet (saw) had become thirsty and had come to this caravan had water from them, they seemed to be looking for a lost camel and asked the prophet(saw) if he had seen it. The prophet told them its location as he had seen a lone camel some distance away. He also told the Meccans that the first camel of this caravan has a red cover.

Indeed after 3 days, this caravan came and related everything the prophet said about them and also said they saw a very strange thing in the sky, the moon split in half.

We read the translation of verse 1-18 of Surah Najm, which talks about Mairaj.

Sheikh Adel mentioned that Abu Jahl’s real name was Amr Ibn Hisham, he was infact earlier known as Abul hakm meaning father of wisdom but the prophet gave him the name Abu Jahl i.e father of ignorance as someone so opposed to Allah cannot be called Hakm. He was even called  “Pharaoh of this Land”.

Also mentioned that masjid Aqsa was the first qibla and third of the sacred mosques. The command for the five daily prayers was given on this journey. It was initially for 50 prayers daily but upon Moosa’s (as) advice the prophet (saw) kept going back to Allah(swt) to have it reduced until 5. It is said that one who says his five daily prayers receives the reward for 50 prayers which was originally prescribed. What a wonderful motivation to keep striving to never miss any Salat!






Value of speech – Part 2

Value of speech – Part 2

(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

On the Journey to the Heavens, Mairaj, the Prophet (SAW) saw many rewards and punishments being given out to people for their good deeds and for their sins. One that drew his attention deeply was about the dangers of the tongue or the words uttered by us.

He (SAW) saw a male calf come out of a small hole but could not go back no matter how he tried. Jibrael AS explained to the prophet that this is like the words coming out of the mouth, which can never be sent back.

He (SAW) saw someone eating the dead body of his brother. That was for backbiting.

He (SAW) saw some people have iron nails and scratching their chests, this was for speaking to give a bad image of a brother while in duniya. They were being made to eat of themselves.

The Prophet SAW said that we would be called to account for every single word that is uttered by us.

Muadh Ibn Jabl, Prophets companion, his ambassador to Yemen and most knowledgeable about halal and haram has said:

“ Nothing will put your face in the hellfire, more, than the Harvest of your tongue”

The Prophet (SAW) once asked, “Do you know who is a muflis (bankrupt)?” He then answered, “the one who comes on the Day of Judgment with mountains of hasanat or good deeds, but would be sent to hellfire because he may have insulted someone, hurt someone’s feelings, talked behind their back things they would not like others to know. To recompense these people, his good deeds will be given to those he wronged until all his good deeds are gone and when that’s not enough then their bad deeds would be given to this person. Thus being sent to the hellfire just because he was careless about the use of the tongue. The lesson being keep your good deeds for yourself by being watchful of what you say.

There is no good in any talk except where one asks to give sadaqa or to do good deeds or to bring reconciliation between two people.

The Prophet’s (SAW) Advice: Talk less because of one wrong word we may have to stay in the hellfire for 70 years. Talking excessively hardens the heart, where hearing the words of Allah does not affect it and the hardened heart is furthest from Allah. It is a hadith, do not make talk without Zikr Allah.

A man once asked the Prophet(SAW) how to be safe in this duniya and in the Akhirah.

The Prophet said: 1. Hold your tongue back.

  1. Let your house include you- spend time in your house with your people.
  2. Cry in repentance, for your mistakes.

The Prophet (SAW) said that every morning the limbs of our body talk to the tongue and say “fear Allah and do not put us in difficulty. We are behind you and follow you. If you do good, we do good and if you sin, then we sin.”

When asked by the Prophet (SAW), what do you fear most for us? he (SAW) held his tongue.

Surah Fussilat: regarding those who stick to the straight path, “The Angels descend on them and say do not be grieved or sad and receive the glad tidings of Jannat. We are your guardians and protectors in this life and the Akhirah.”

May Allah guide us all in following the Prophet’s advice. Ameen

Importance of Speech

Allah SWT says to speak only good words. There are two Angels, Raqeeb on our right shoulder and Ateed on our left shoulder writing every deed and word of ours. Allah SWT says, anyone who believes should only speak good words or keep silent.

You may receive Allah’s pleasure or his wrath until you meet him, only because of your speech. The Prophet (SAW)’s beloved wife Aisha (RA) once mentioned the prophet’s wife Saffiyah(RA) as a short woman in a simple gesture. He SAW did not like that and said to her that, what you said and gestured could change the water of the sea. We need to reflect how on how we talk and conduct ourselves. May Allah Guide us all.

It is said that if you trip with your feet you’ll probably only hurt yourself a bit and recover but if you trip with your tongue you could loose everything.

Gheebah means taking advantage of absence. Once Prophet SAW asked his companions what is gheebah? They said that Allah and his messenger know best, He (SAW) then replied, “to mention your brother with what he hates”. The Sahabah said, “even if it is true”, and the Prophet(SAW) said, “this is gheebah”. To say what’s not true is spreading rumors and that is even worse. You share in the punishment of gheebah even if you don’t say anything and are only listening to the other person doing so. Correct the person making gheebah by stopping them, if you protect the dignity of your brother or sister then Allah will protect your face from the fire on the day of judgement.

The Prophet (SAW) said, to leave argument with people even if you are right. He said that there is special place in Jannah for such people, who leave argument for the sake of Allah.

We should try to reduce our talk time and try to engage in Zikr of Allah.

However, it is also not allowed that a person should take an oath of silence for the day. An Islamic saying goes like this, “There is no orphan after puberty and no silence until the night”.

On one occasion the Prophet (SAW) was giving a khutbah and he saw one man standing outside in the heat, while everyone else was sitting. He inquired about him and was told that he is Israel, he has taken a wow to stand and never take shade. He had also wowed to fast  and keep quiet. The Prophet(SAW) said to tell him to sit under the shade and speak as Allah is not in need for him to torture himself. That is not Islam. Allah SWT says that he does not make any difficulty in religion.

During the Battle of Tabuk, one of the toughest battles, the sahabah had to walk hundreds of miles leaving  behind a harvest ready to be picked. Three people said that they are strong and have horses and would go later. They did not go. When the Prophet (SAW) inquired about one of them, someone spoke up and described him as probably being busy with his fine garments. Muadh Ibn Jabal, immediately corrected him and said not to say that about him. Imagine how careful the companions were with their speech and how they corrected the other. The three people were punished by Allah, the Prophet did not speak to them for 50 days. They repented even though a neighboring king offered them a good life as their Prophet stopped speaking to them. They refused and burnt that letter. Allah forgave them as related in Surah Taubah.

Value of Speech – Part 1

Value of Speech  – Part 1

(Class notes from the sisters Halaqa, with Sheikh Adel)

There are 100 Levels of Jannah and the distance between each level is like the distance between the earth and the 1st heaven. Only a privileged few will be with the Prophet (SAW) in Jannah. They will have 2 qualities Taqwa (god fearing) and Husnul Khuluq (good Manners &/ good behavior).

The Prophet (SAW) said that, the people furthest from him in the hereafter are:

  1. At Thirtharoon– Those who talk too much and there is no benefit in their talk.
  2. Al Matafayhiqoon– Those people who use words for arrogance. They talk to people with words that people do not understand. Showing that they are more knowledgeable. They speak in a loud and lofty manner.
  3. Al Mutashaddiqoon– Those people who use their words in putting others down or speaking excessively about others in a filthy manner.

A saying in Arabic goes: If a person’s mind is complete (he is knowledgeable) his speech is incomplete (he will talk less). The higher your spiritual state, lesser, you need to speak. One who talks less commands more respect. Al kalaam ad dava- Speech is like medicine, taking the right amount would cure and taking too much could harm or even kill. The tongue is like a wild animal, if let loose it would harm but if tied up it will not harm. Nothing needs to be imprisoned more than the tongue.

Abu Bakr Siddiq would try and pull out his tongue and used to say that, “this tongue always puts me in trouble.”

Luqman, the wise would say “when people are proud of their words and speech be proud of your silence.”

However, a person who keeps quiet when seeing injustice has the influence of the devil.


Exceptions to Gheebah:

There are six exceptions where we are allowed to talk about other people:

  1. To describe someone. For example if someone is blind or has one leg etc.
  2. Raising a complaint against someone to a Judge.
  3. To get a Fatwa. Once Hind (wife of Abu Sufyan) after she had accepted Islam, came to the Prophet (SAW) and said about her husband that, “indeed he is cheap, and a miser and he is not giving me enough to support his children and me.” She wanted the Prophets advice and fatwa; He (SAW) said “take whatever is enough for you and your children that which is Ma’roof (just and balanced).” The Prophet let her describe her husband but it was only for that monetary matter. She did not say any other bad things about him.
  4. Giving Advice. If someone asks for Advice about another person, you’ll have to talk about that person related to that matter. Once Fatima bint Qais came to the Prophet (SAW) seeking advice about two marriage proposals for her, one from Muawiyah and one from Abu Jahl. He (SAW) said to her that Muawiyah is nothing (as a fact of his monetary situation), and Abu Jahl never puts his cane down (beats women). He (SAW) told her to marry Muawiyah as marrying the righteous would enrich you. The Prophet talked about these people as he was giving sincere advice.
  5. Warning the Muslims against someone who is a criminal, thief etc., for the protection of the community.
  6. Talk about someone who openly sins and does evil, (Al Mujahir). However it is preferred to not gossip about it as you could fall into sin later.

One must be careful, however, not to misuse these exceptions.